“You are wrong.” That’s what most people say about you. But I believe they haven’t dug deep enough to really know you. You see, we live in a polarized world and some might say you fall in the negative end of that spectrum. At your worst, your optics aren’t great. The power you wield is real but often misplaced in assuming it to be true strength. Let me explain. When you compare the Hulk to his alter ego Dr. Banner, he was simply the unfiltered rawness of you. Powerful. Unaware. Destructive. Angry. These aren’t measures to boast but weaknesses that reveal themselves at the face of vulnerability. True strength resides in being able to embrace you selflessly with a rational mind and a compassionate heart. That’s the way of the Prophet ﷺ and all walks of life that follow such balance. He ﷺ once said, “A strong person is one who contains himself when he is angry” (Bukhari). The Qur’an speaks of the righteous as those “who control their anger and who pardon the people” (3:134). Sure, it’s easier said than done. Even my ego serves as your target, straining the limits of my own patience. Yet, it’s within that moment an opportunity exists to strengthen such patience. To hold my tongue and limbs with more accountability and less reactivity is a process that requires introspection, practice, relapse, and faith.
So Anger, let me share something with you. In your attempts to define me, it’s me that defines you. To understand you is to understand a part of me, so to deny you is to deny that part of me. I live this life to filter you through a rational mind and a compassionate heart. How else could I be moved to heal those afflicted by systemic issues that plague the world? How else could I embrace the intolerant with informed and respectable dialogue? How else could I defend the rights of any human being if I have forgotten what it means to be human? So yes, it’s a test to have you. But so is knowing I’m not you.